APPRECIATIVE LISTENING: watchful feelingness

Which way are you listing?

open, sourced?

foundation: sharing.

Vince — good question last night, listening into our meeting; “how does a meeting with people that you’ve never met becomes a familial love / hug fest?”

Silence — and observative, feelingness –– listening. The way that you hear is by being quiet and watching the person that you’re paying attention to. And connecting with them. Bringing them into yourself. You’re holding them. That hug starts at the beginning.

Someone just said —

“I will give you my full attention.”

Really, what’s that mean?

That’s hard, since it means being wholly present — and attached to the person, listener to actor — appreciately, intuitively and empathically — it’s about holding; I’ve seen it only rarely in another. It is a presence of astonishing serenity — it is a calming listening that is profoundly quieting. Or disquieting.

Have you had someone listen to you in a way that is nearly “disquieting?”
It’s probably because it is uncommon. And unfamiliar.
Whole listening.

Watching a person wholly, to see WHAT THEY’RE DOING with their body — the hands, the arms, the legs, the faces — and feeling the what, and the why, they’re feeling.

that will be appreciative listening. feelingness. Empathic entanglement.

e m b r a c e m e n t . . .

Bodies, faces, tell us a lot — about connection or disconnection. What that means is “the lean.” Or — “the list.” Where are you, or they, leaning – towards you, or away. Leaning in, leaning out — leaning forward, leaning back.

The brand could be about listening, as well — leaning in, leaning out. Holding, or not holding — is there something to be, or could be, carried away, onwards — outwards?

Someone said — “for me, this brand is something for me — really, just for me. That’s what I’m thinking about — how this is: for me”

Did you know that listening links to “list?” Lean in, get closer, empathize:

list (v.1)

“tilt, lean,” especially of a ship, 1880, earlier (1626) lust, of unknown origin, perhaps an unexplained spelling variant of M.E. lysten “to please, desire, wish, like” (see listless) with a sense development on the notion of “leaning” toward what one desires (cf. incline).

It’s your language, it’s the listening language — of the empath, or the appreciative listener. The appreciative sensor.

Intrigued, list in, dispelled, leaning out?


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